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I was recently asked what the three most important things are that I’ve learned from my time in France. The question, posed by a reader, has kept my mind turning this past week. I’ve rolled it over and over in my mind for days trying to come up with the very truest, most honest answer I could. In the end, the first of this list is also the very first that popped into my head: how to eat right.
It might sound trivial at first, basic even, and yet knowing how to eat like the French is no small task. It’s not that their food is so much more complicated than Anglo recipes (although that’s true to a certain degree). And it’s
not that the French hold their forks in a funny way (although they do set the table differently than we do in North America). In fact, after much reflection, I’ve finally come up with a suitable way to articulate the most striking differences between the way I used to eat and the way I’ve learned to eat as a French person. It’s really quite simple when I write it out in words, and now that it makes up my daily routine I hardly think about it at all anymore. But it wasn’t always like that. There was a time a few years back when I spent a great deal of time trying to get a handle of all this cuisine savoir-vivre. Now I’m going to pass it on to you.
There are essentially three main prongs to eating like a French person, and I’m going to spend a post on each one: (1) variety, (2) proportion size, and what I’m going to call (3) à table.
Today, I’ll start with the first: variety.
When I used to walk into Publix in the States or Longos and Loblaws in Canada, I’d spend most of my time in the produce section, which many health professionals and diet gurus tell us is the right thing to do, the buying mostly unproduced food part, that is. Without fail, I would walk out of the store each week with the same ten vegetables and fruit. Variety, I knew, was a staple of a healthy diet, and I interpreted the concept as varying my meals around this rather small selection of produce. I’d never thought about variety meaning more than a simple rotation.
The French know this instinctively.
My mother-in-law is a master of this particular piece of savoir-vivre. She plans her meals a few days in advance – the French shop for only a few days at a time – and writes out the meat, vegetable, cheese (or yogurt) and fruit that will make up the menu of each of these lunches and dinners. She cycles through beef and pork, chicken and turkey, lamp and rabbit (the French do eat more types of meat than we’re accustomed to), fish and crustaceans. Beside the meat course she writes a different seasonal vegetable and ends by including a fruit which is the dessert course of French family meals most of the time. That’s one part protein, two parts fiber, one part dairy, and of course the wine.
She instinctively knows that summer offers us crispy green beans, white asparagus, a whole family of tomatoes, not to mention all those fabulous fresh herbs. Fall brings us eggplant, zucchini (think ratatouille), artichokes, cabbage, endives and beets. The winter months are laden with all those root vegetables that are fabulous for soups and stews. I wrote a post a few months back including a list of what produce is in season when (in temperate climates), so for a more complete list, look here.
The key to my mother-in-law’s menus is not just varying the types of products she buys, which was my early conception of eating right, but also knowing and buying the produce in its natural season. This is a concept that completely escaped me back home. Like I mentioned above, I’d go into the store and buy the same ten fruits and veggies without even thinking – apples, oranges, grapes, strawberries, red pepper, cucumber, zucchini, tomatoes, onions and potatoes. It never occurred to me that green beans weren’t in season in the winter or that tomatoes were at their best in the summer. It had all perpetually just been available, polished and ready for me on the stands at the store, so I bought it year-round without a thought.
Then, I moved to France and realized not only that strawberries are delicate kisses of sunlight in the summer but that you cannot even buy strawberries except in the summer in most of France. I suppose these restrictions make things a little easier, in fact. We don’t really have to worry about getting the seasons right. Nature does it for us.
Those of you lucky enough to have a farmer’s market nearby enjoy the same advantage.
The best part about taking the time to eat in season is that when you look the varieties of produce are multiplied tenfold. Right now, for instance, its prune,
mirabelle and fig season in France. We’re just at the cusp of grape season (wine harvest) which begins in mid-September. And strawberries are over. Did you know there are about eight different types of prunes? And did you further know that they aren’t black and hard and wrinkly? You might laugh, but before moving to France I didn’t have any idea that a prune was a delicious, fleshy, sweet fruit. I’d only ever seen dried prunes (which I suppose should have been my first clue given that a dried anything has to have come from an un-dried something in the first place – I never gave it any thought). In France, those dried prunes are called pruneaux (prune-o), by the way – something other than prunes.
What I’ve come to love about this first prong of eating like the French, after the original shock of not being able to buy exactly what I wanted when I wanted, was that in the summer I love strawberries more than I ever did before. And I look forward to summer in part for their sake. I buy giant bushels of them and eat them in practically every kind of tart or pie or cake that I can think of, not to mention by the bucket full straight out of my hand. My belle-mère has a similarly special relationship with peaches. In the summer when she spends her time in the countryside, she goes every couple of days to the same lady at the local market and buys crates of peaches by the kilo. And they are nothing short of juicy, sweet deliciousness.
Then when the bright summer rays begin to fade into a soft autumn glow, we begin a new love affair with prunes, apples, mirabelles, grapes, and the heavier vegetables for thick stocks and stews.
The added bonus of eating in rotation with nature like the French is that as each season comes back around the next year you rediscover an entire world of recipes you’d almost forgotten. It’s rebirth at its finest and most gourmet.
Nature does all the work for us if we let her. Vegetables and fruit eaten in season are on special order from the land and Frenchmen would be hard pressed to have it any other way.
Bon appétit!

Eating in season – such a good idea! I already knew about the yearly cycle of fruit, but two things have really brought it to my attention for vegetables – a local farmers’ market, as you mention, and planting my own vegetable garden. Green beans are SO GOOD when they were still on the bush an hour before you eat them! And don’t get me started on backyard basil and thyme and rosemary, or we’ll be here all day.
You’re so right about green beans. And the French ones here are thin, long and slightly sweet – simply divine. You are lucky to have a garden. I grew up mostly as a city girl, or at least a small city girl, so I never had any idea about the natural cycle of produce. Well, except for oranges. When I lived in Florida as a child, I learned that citrus – oranges in particular – were a winter fruit. Take care!
Delicious! One of my favorite memories about living in France was going to the market every Friday with my friend. She’s a fabulous cook and the meals she made were so wonderful. There are plenty of farmer’s markets where I live and you’ve inspired me to start visiting them more often. Then maybe I’ll actually cook something.
You’re right! Delicilous fresh produce makes you want to cook! This happened to me last Friday after coming home from the marché. I made a stew, a pear/walnut quiche and a homemade pizza – all my weekend meals in one afternoon. Luckily they were all recipes that taste even better warmed up.
The market can just get to you like that someitmes!
Beautiful post. An excellent illustration of exactly what is different about the French way of eating. I love that you include very specific details versus generalizations and pepper it with your own experiences. I agree about the benefits [nutrition and pleasure] of eating in season. Each summer I eat watermelon like I had just discovered the best fruit on earth. Then, the Niagara peaches come in season and watermelon is old hat – no longer the “best fruit I have ever tasted”. Here in Ontario where I live, there is a real push by the foodland Ontario marketing board to entice us to “eat local” in order to support the farmer. Your post has given me pause to consider that the slogan should also include the sentiment that we should “eat local – it’s too darn good and it won’t be around till next year so get it while it’s fresh”. Interesting that we need a marketing slogan for what seems to be to be a very natural rhythm for you family [and now you!] in France. Thank you for the education. Can’t wait for prongs 2 and 3 of the fork!
Thank you, Valerie! “Get it while it’s fresh!” Perfect. That’s precisely it. Prong two is in the works for Thursday – proportion size. (I think that’s the real key to French cooking and health.)
One of my favorite stops in France is Rue Cler. The beautiful variety of produce is displayed like art!
I know that marché well! You’re right, there really isn’t anything as appealing as beautifully displayed produce. And for readers who might not be familiar with this particular area of Paris, here’s a great article on it.
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I just loved this..having lived for a while in France and Italy, the seasonality was a revelation! Now we try to live it here in the States..
My mom has begun to do the same. She lives in a small town just outside of Toronto, Canada and loves to make her way through the markets. Ontario has some fabulous produce! Six years ago before I came to France I was living in the North East and famers markets were coming more and more accessible. I hope that trend has continued.
I didn’t know how good food could be until I lived in France. I started to live as they did. Surprisingly, despite my new gourmet cooking, I did not gain an ounce. When we returned to Canada, we simply continued to eat as though we were in France. It’s the only way I cook.
What I found marvellous was the popularity of cookbooks. They were the bestsellers. Great blog!
I absolutely agree with you! Cookbooks are delightful. I have a whole collection on my counter and like nothing more than flipping through one on a Saturday morning to get inspired before heading to the market! Thank you!
I bought a cookbook authored by Mapie de Toulouse-Lautrec, as in the Toulouse-Lautrec. She tells you when you should slaughter the chicken before preparing it. I had neighbours in Countainville who owned un manoir and had a basse-cour and slaugthered their own chicken. That, I could never do. We shared our Sunday déjeuner. We were at table from noon to five. This was quintessential France. I often think of you.
Ah, thank you! That’s very kind!
You can never go wrong with Farmer’s Market. Guaranteed fresh produce (juicy oranges) that are incomparable with regular Supermarket. Great day strolling. The atmosphere, the feel of being there is remarkable. And just the overall fact that’s it’s a better way to do grocery.
Hear hear!
Speaking of the prunes, I’ve been enjoying the Reine Claude prunes right now (very small and green). Never had them until I lived in France and they are delicious!
This summer I discovered that I have sadly lost that instinctive ability to vary veg and fruit, due to the fact that supermarkets in England are full of out of season produce. I had found out that my daughter likes satsumas, and thought I would just buy some when we were over in France a couple of weeks ago, only for my sister to look at me in horror with ‘you don’t get satsumas in summer!’
I’ve lost my touch and I don’t know how to get it back!
Love this story! It’s so true. I can just see my mother-in-law in the stance of your sister. The puzzled look on their faces. I hope you are able to recultivate your French instincts! Although I know it’s not as easy when markets aren’t on every “place” a few times a week. Do they have farmer markets near where you live now in England? Of course, you’re lucky to have all this savoir-vivre in your veins!
A new seasonal cookbook came out this year – might be inspiring for you: French Bistro Seasonal Recipes by Bertrand Auboyneau. I also love Around my French Table by Dorie Greenspan. Take care!
They do, but they vary wildly in quality depending on where you live, and really do not compare well to their french counterparts. Ours consists of one fruit and veg stall. I got very rude service there once because I didn’t know how much I wanted in pounds (my recipe was in grams and I still can’t picture pounds), so I tend not to go!
Eating in season – yes! But what I appreciated most was the comment regarding your mother-in-law planning her meals in advance. I have done this for years & have encourage everyone to do this, especially when living on a restricted budget! By planning out your meals, you waste less time shopping in stores, waste less money in fast food outlets and are able to anticipate delicious meals which increases the enjoyment of the end product!
Thanks for a great Post!
Absolutely! Planning is the key. You’re so right about this! And you notice when you are behind the lovely French ladies here at the markets that they tell the vendors when they want to eat the produce for – 3 artichokes for Thrusday dinner – and so the experts choose the most appropriate items. It’s just such a wonderful system. I hope we all get back to it in our own way. Thank you!
I love that they mention when they will be using the item. I bet they even throw in what the dish is because that could also dictate which item is the best. Wonderful post and great comments too.
Sometime they do mention the meal. In fact, just the other day I was in line behind a lady in the marché and she told the vender she was making a ratatouille – he gave her exactly what she needed. Thank you for stopping by!
I love this post! It’s only been in the past few years that I’ve made a concerted effort to buy what’s in season and relatively local. It does make me appreciate ripe, sweet figs, or strawberries, or whatever is really ripe and in season.
Thank you! And sweet figs… yum. I just made a recipe last night where I threw some figs in with two chicken breasts, a little butter and a sauted red onion. It was heavenly. My poor figs had gone a little too soft on me, which made them perfect for a warm meal.
I was exactly like you when I was in Canada but even living in London has taught me some of this. Granted to a lesser scale, but buying in season and local had become a very important part of my eating practice.
And some of the grocery stores are better at this than others. I know the Whole Foods near my mom’s house in Ontario makes a general effort to cycle through the seasons, as does her local corner produce shop. Last year I went to a Whole Foods in London that recently opened – the only downfall, of course, is that unlike farmers markets in France, I find WFs rather expensive.
We try to eat local and seasonal here too…but it seems like it is a much more natural process. Love that strawberries are “kisses of sunlight”!
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Such common sense. Loved your description of strawberries (“kisses of sunlight”) and also the idea of looking forward to food in season, too. I enjoy cooking that way (thanks to a wonderful Farmers Market) — planning meals, shopping for just enough for a few days, etc. — but every now and then I succumb to availability. A “ripe” tomato in December does NOT taste the same as one in mid-July. Thanks for the reminder!
So true. And to think that I used to eat tomatoes all year round. I just never used to give that sort of things any thought. Farmers markets are the very best! So glad you have one near you!